If nothing else, do it as a gift to yourself - someone who deserves more than you will ever know." Although she is speaking to one particular experience of solitude, I believe it translates well to the broader experience of learning that you are very much deserving of your own gentleness and care.
You already survived everything you survived, so give yourself a day where you allow yourself to stay present. In an essay about spending the holidays alone, Moore says, "Just be gentler with yourself than you'd think you'd need to be. In her debut collection of essays, Moore expertly jabs at vulnerable concepts of abandonment, rejection, abuse, desperation, and self-love with facetious wit and gutting honesty. Learning to understand and care for yourself during periods of wanted and unwanted alone time is a worthy pursuit. The subtitle says it all - because sometimes, you're alone regardless of what you would prefer. Lane Moore's essay collection's How To Be Alone: If You Want To And Even If You Don't is my most recent read and it led me to reflect on the ways I embrace my singlehood and intermittent, piercing loneliness. Outside of getting myself a decent vibrator, I found that asking people for recommendations of books to read when single was incredibly helpful.Ĭoping with and understanding the experience of being single can be especially difficult if you're less than thrilled to be flying solo. There were a lot of factors involved in getting from point A (really heartbroken and sad about being single) to point B ( mostly happy with my independent life). But it's taken me years to get to the point of being able to say that and mean it.
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